Daughters

I am sitting and having a conversation with Corrisa about salvation and have her watch a video on Godtube I came across the other day. If you want a good convicting preach look up Paul Washer and watch him. He is the best of the modern preachers.
Anyway, Corrisa was saying how at church camp one of her friends was more interested in flirting with boys then she was with anything else. She said that she wore inappropriate clothes and just acted like a bimbo (my words not hers). Anyway, I told her that maybe she shouldn't hang around this girl anymore and she told me that she didn't want to anyway because she isn't the type of friend she wants to have in life. I am glad that my daughter has a good head on her shoulders.

Anyway, I got to thinking of comments I hear mothers make about their children and the way they behave. I hear the blame go to friends, t.v., relatives, etc. No parent ever blames them self for how their children turn out. In fact they have nobody, but themselves to blame. If we are letting our children hang around these negative influences we can't blame anybody, but ourselves. The Bible says "Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6." If you aren't raising them in the way they should go, then how can you complain about how they turn out. If you know your child is having sex and you all you do is put them on birth control to prevent a pregnancy, then you aren't addressing the real issue. You should have sat them down and talked to them about what the Bible teaches about having an adulterous relationship.
I think that now a days parents are afraid of what their children will do if they talk to them about the truth of the Bible when in fact they should be afraid of standing before God and trying to explain to him why our children turned out the way they did. If you let your child dress in a seductive way and then can't figure out why boys are calling and wanting a date with your child then you haven't addressed the verses in the Bible that speak of modesty. 1 Timothy 2:9-15 says In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with braided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array;
But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.
Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection.
But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.
For Adam was first formed, then Eve.
And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.
Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.

If we don't teach our daughter's how they should behave how can we expect them to behave in a Godly or righteous manner. God gave us the job of raising our children for him. He will be holding us accountable for how they are raised and how they turn out. I think this day and age more and more parents are worried about their fitting into the "in" crowd then they are about how they are walking their walk. We are worried about what clothes are in style and what music everybody else is listening to. I hope that Corrisa continues to wear clothes that are more modest then those of her peers.

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. Ephesians 6: 1-3.
If we don't make our children obey us how do we expect our children to respect people of authority when they get older. If we let them call the shots and do what they please, wear what they please, listen to what they please, watch what they please who are we to expect them to get into heaven one day. "He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes. Proverbs 13:24. Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod or correction shall drive it far from him. Proverbs 22: 15." It says right here in God's word that we are to correct our children. To discipline them, not let them do as they want because they have to fit into a certain crowd.

The Bible talks to us about remaining virgins until we are married. About adultery. I am not trying to be a hypocrite when it comes to this because I myself committed adultery. In fact my first two children are a result of adultery, but I have also told my children of this sin and try not to hide it from them. I also tell my children what the Bible says about adultery. Proverbs 5 says this "My son, attend unto my wisdom, and bow thine ears to my understanding. That thou mayest regard discretion, and that thy lips may keep knowledge. For the lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil: But her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two edged sword. Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell. Lest thou shouldest ponder the path of life, her ways are moveable, that thou canst not know them. Hear me now therefore, O ye children, and depart not from the words of my mouth. Remove thy way far from her, and come not nigh the door of her house: Lest thou give thine honour unto others, and thy years unto the cruel: Lest strangers be filled with thy wealth; and thy labours be in the house of a stranger; And thou mourn at the last when thy flesh and thy body are consumed. And say, How have I hated instruction, and my heart despised reproof; And have not obeyed the voice of my teachers, nor inclined mine ear to them that instructed me! I was almost in all evil in the midst of the congregation and assembly. Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well. Let they fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets. Let them be only think own, and not strangers' with thee. Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love. And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger? For the ways of a man are before the eyes of the Lord, and he pondereth all his goings. His own iniquities shall take the wicked himself, and he shall be holden with the cords of his sins. He shall die without instruction; and in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray." "To keep thee from the evil woman, from the flattery of the tongue of a strange woman. Lust not after her beauty in thine heart; neither let her take thee with her eyelids. For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: and the adulteress will hunt for the precious life. Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned? So he that goeth in to his neighbour's wife; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent. Proverbs 6:24-29." Do we want to be responsible for an adulterous daughter? Do we want our daughter's to walk around half naked and not see that if we had taught them about modesty that they would still be pure at heart and body.
Staying pure isn't "in", but to get into Heaven it is. I guess I just don't want to have to stand in front of God and explain why I did the things I did. I hope my daughter looks at my advice as wise since it is backed by Bible teaching. If my daughter dresses in a not so modest way, I can't blame anybody but myself. I my daughter gets pregnant before she is married then I have failed her and my God for not teaching her how she should act.
I hope that this makes some sense. I have so much more to write, but can't get it in the correct order in my mind to get it typed out. I will have to continue this later.
Shelly